How This Child Bride Became A Champion Wrestler

It might not be easy being a woman in Haryana, but don’t tell 21 year old Neetu that.

When she was married off at 13 to a stranger, and had a pair of twins at 14, her life could’ve followed the same track as is common with millions of women in Haryana – a sheltered, domestic life while working in the fields around her village. But Neetu didn’t want any of that. She chose to become a wrestler instead.

neetu wrestler
Source: NPR

Neetu won a silver medal in the National Games in Kerala in 2015, and now has her sights set on the Olympic Games in Rio this year. She’s come a long way since the time she found out that the person she had been married off to when she was 13 had developmental difficulties. He was also 30 years her senior.

“He was mentally challenged,” says Neetu. He defecated in the house, and when Neetu refused to clean it up, her mother-in-law was incensed. To make things worse, her father-in-law tried to abuse her sexually. “One day when no one was home, he took me into his bedroom and pulled off my veil,” she says. “He warned  ‘Don’t tell anyone.’ “

Most thirteen year olds would’ve crumbled, but Neetu was made of sterner stuff. She broke off the marriage, but her parents made her marry again. She became a mother a year later, giving birth to a pair of twins. 

She’d always been athletic as a kid, and astonished neighbours when she carried gas cylinders by herself when she was a young girl. The 2010 Commonwealth games in Delhi, though, transformed her life. She watched the wrestling events being broadcast, and she was transfixed. “I love wrestling”, she says. “You get lost in a team sport, but here you’re on your own”

She enrolled in a wrestling akhada in Rohtak. For two years, she got up at 3 in the morning, took the bumpy hour-and-a-half bus ride from her village of Bedwa, and then did her gruelling morning training regimen. She’d then return home to do the housework, then journey back to Rohtak in the afternoons for more practice. She says it was possible because her second husband was supportive of her wrestling dreams.

Neetu with her family. (Source: NPR)

“He’s given me a new life. He pulled me out of hell and brought me to heaven. I’m able to wrestle because of him. I’m away and we don’t have a usual husband-wife relationship. He’s made a huge sacrifice,” Neetu says.

And Neetu isn’t letting his sacrifice go to waste. At her akhada, she’s amongst the hardest working athletes. “She’s different in terms of will power. And being married with small children from a deprived background, it’s an achievement to even be here,” says her coach . “During training, she doesn’t take a break for even one minute. She’s determined to become something.”

And irrespective of her wrestling career, she has already become something. The village elders, who were earlier skeptical of her sporting pursuits, now bask in the accolades their village receives as a result of her accomplishments. “She’s changed everything!”, says a resident. “Everybody believes that a girl can now say — ‘I want to do something.’